Mother of the Groom Etiquette Questions Answered

Just about everyone understands the role that the mother of the bride plays on the big day. But the mother of the groom’s role in the wedding can feel a lot squishier. Here are some answers to your basic questions about mother of the groom etiquette.

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What are the responsibilities of the mother of the groom?

It can be confusing to know what your duties are as mother of the groom. The mother of the bride takes care of many things, but the mother of the groom has a few responsibilities as well. Traditionally, the groom’s mother will take care of the rehearsal dinner arrangements and help prepare the guest list for the groom’s side of the family. Both tasks should be done with both the bride and the groom’s input. Any other responsibilities can be negotiated among the families.

What kind of dress should the mother of the groom wear?

Usually the mother of the groom should look stunning, but let the mother of the bride have the spotlight. If you want to stick to this tradition, it can be a good idea to let the mother of the bride choose her dress first. You want to make sure that you don’t look like you’re purposefully trying to outshine her or steal the spotlight.

Should the mother of the groom go dress shopping with the bride?

This is a “wait and see” situation. It’s important to let the bride invite you on this journey with her rather than inserting yourself into the process. If she doesn’t invite you to come dress shopping, don’t take it personally. It could be that she wants this time to bond with her mom, sister, or other family members before she becomes a part of your family.

Should the mother of the groom attend the bachelorette party?

Generally speaking, having a no-parents policy at both the bachelor and bachelorette parties is best. The bride might not be able to truly let her hair down if her future husband’s mother is nearby.

What should the mother of the groom know for the mother-son dance?

This lovely tradition is often a fantastic opportunity for mother and son to bond. Often the groom and mother of the groom will select their song together. The bride may get a say, but it should largely be a conversation between mother and son. Traditionally, the mother-son dance will take place before the father-daughter dance.

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